Waiting for DaddyBy ALEX MCCAIN,
Fashion Editor      Around the holidays people can get caught up in giving and receiving gifts that they forget what the holidays are truly about —— family. Even though this time of the year is intended to be family oriented, many people take spending quality time with their family for granted. But what most people don’t realize is that not everyone has the opportunity to spend the holidays with their loved ones. Sometimes people don’t understand how important family is until they’re gone. It’s Stanton students like freshmen Joceylnn Tyler and Chelsy Coney who’ve come to know what it feels like not to have family members around. For them quality time with loved ones is not something to be taken for granted considering both of their fathers are on active duty in the U.S military and will not be home for the holidays.
      Aaron Tyler, Joceylnn’s father, whom she describes as both loving and dedicated, has been in the Navy for almost 25 years. The last time he saw his family was on Sept.14, 2006. Even though he’s currently on deployment as a part of Operation Iraqi Freedom, it doesn’t keep him from being close with his daughter. Since they can’t see each other face to face, Jocelynn and her dad have found other ways to communicate.
“He’s helping his country and I know it’s something he really wants to do so I support him.” -Jocelynn Tyler, 9th
      “He emails me once a week, and occasionally he calls once every two months,” she said.
      According to Jocelynn this will not be her dad’s first time being away for the holidays; he’s gone every other year. Despite this, not having him around for Christmas can still be difficult to deal with. When he has to go away for long periods of time Jocelynn is often sad, but her own feelings are put aside,
      “ He’s helping his country and I know it’s something he really wants to do so I support him,” she said.
      In spite of Jocelynn’s sadness, this experience has helped strengthen their relationship as father and daughter. Although Mr. Tyler feels that he has missed out on special times as Jocelynn has grown up, he also feels that they are close and he tries to spend one on one time with her whenever he is home.
      But Jocelynn isn’t the only person in the Tyler family to feel his absence; the rest of her family is affected as well. With her dad not around as much most of the work is left to her step mom, but as a family they still support him in what he does. While Mr. Tyler may be away, Jocelynn and the rest of her family still celebrate Christmas as usual.
      “We do the presents and have dinner, except we tape it all and we save my dad’s gifts so that when he comes home we have a mini Christmas for him,” said Jocelynn.
      Though Mr. Tyler may be miles away, home seems to be where his heart is as he reflects on happier Christmas memories of him and his family.
      “I think my best Christmas memory is when we were in Pennsylvania for the holidays, and Jocelynn and her younger sister still believed in Santa,” said Mr. Tyler in a recent email.
      According to Mr. Tyler, that was the first Christmas he had spent with Jocelynn and her sister in three years.
      Mr. Tyler is scheduled to return home in March of 2007 and although the exact date is not known, Jocelynn and her family plan to do something special for him.
      “We might go to Disney World or Universal Studios to celebrate him coming home,” Jocelynn said.
      But what she is looking most forward to when her dad returns is waiting on the dock until his ship comes back so that she can see him standing on the flight deck.
      No matter how much empathy someone has for a person, it’s not until they go through it themselves that they will really understand how it feels. If there’s anyone who’s able to relate to Jocelynn’s situation it would have to be freshmen Chelsy Coney.
      Charles Robert Coney, Chelsy’s father has been in the National Guard for 17 years. He’s currently stationed in Montgomery, Alabama where he helps recruit people for the military. It’s been nine months since he last came home. For Mr. Coney to come home is a rare occasion considering this will be his third year in a row missing Christmas with his family. Though they may be several miles apart, Chelsy and her dad communicate with one another by phone three times a week.
“We get sad at times but we know he’s honoring his country and he’s helping to keep food on the table for us.” -Chelsey Coney, 9th
      Despite Mr. Coney’s absence, Chelsy and the rest of her family celebrate Christmas as usual saving her dad’s gifts until the next time they see him. She isn’t the only one who copes with her dad being away; the rest of her family feels sad as well.
      “We get sad at times but we know he’s honoring his country and he’s helping to keep food on the table for us,” Chelsy said.
      She describes her father as being great and although he can’t give her the whole world, he tries his best to give her a nice piece of it. This experience has taught Chelsy about family and to not take things for granted.
      “I would love to have my dad come home everyday,” said Chelsy in response to those who don’t appreciate their loved ones. When she does have a chance to spend time with him it means everything to her. In fact, it has also helped to strengthen their relationship as father and daughter.
      “It’s taught me a lot,” Chelsy said. “For him to be away from his family for so many years to honor his country, I respect him for that.” It is not known when Mr. Coney is scheduled to come home. However Chelsy stated that even though she didn’t have anything special planned for him upon his return, she can’t wait to hug and kiss him.
      Both girls love their fathers and can’t express enough how much they miss them. To them this time of the year isn’t about the commercialism we’re constantly surrounded by, it’s about remembering the little moments with family. Despite the sacrifices, Mr. Tyler expressed family was most important when he said, “I cherish every moment that I get to spend with my family.”